How to snag a gamer girlfriend

Five tips to help you find the elusive girl gamer

The girl gamer is a rare breed of lady. Like a ninja or a flying unicorn, she remains perpetually shrouded in myth and/or shadow. Statistics would have us believe that over 40 percent of gamers are female — but come on. When was the last time you got trash-talked on Modern Warfare 2 by the dulcet tones of a woman? The fact is: you have a better chance of meeting a girl with an interest in Gauguin than gaming (girls are a lot smarter than us, y’see).

How to meet a girl gamer

A girl gamer in her natural habitat

But that’s not to say that female gamers don’t exist. You just need to adopt the right mindset and know where to look. If you pine for a fellow gamer to keep you warm at night — and your hairy roommate just isn’t cutting it — then you need to read this article. Armed with the following tips, you're guaranteed to land the gamer girlfriend of your dreams. Maybe.

Tip 1: Stick to your own league

How to meet a girl gamer


Look at the girl in this picture. Now erase her from your memory forever. She has been paid by Microsoft to look vaguely interested while holding an Xbox controller. As much as we’d like to believe otherwise, part-time models don’t spend their downtime playing Halo 3 in their underwear (with the possible exception of Jessica Chobot.)

Besides, the girl in that photo would almost certainly crush you to death with her elephant-sized hoofs. Just look at the size of those bloody things! Gargantuan feet notwithstanding, our advice is to aim lower. Morgan Webb, Felicia Day and that cute chick who licks Xbox controllers are not going to date you. Stick to your own league.

How to meet a girl gamer

Jessica Chobot: not gonna happen

What we’re trying to say here, is that beggars can’t be choosers. There is only one stud gamer in this world and his name is Vin Diesel. Chances are, your guns don’t measure up. Set your sights on a girl gamer with slightly less facial hair than you — if she agrees to go on a date, you’re doin' pretty well for yourself.

Tip 2: Join an MMO

How to meet a girl gamer

World of Warcraft: there be ladies

MMOs are unusually popular with girl gamers. In fact, the genre's crawling with more female chromosomes than a lonely mad scientist's petri dish. According to a recent Nielsen study, over two-thirds of online gamers are women — and most of ‘em can be found playing World of Warcrack. (Er, we mean World of Warcraft.) With over 40,000 registered female players in the US alone, WoW is the ultimate hunting ground for affection-starved gamers. It’s basically one big lonely hearts club, but with trolls, gnomes and ogres. [So, no change there then. -- Ed.]

But it’s not just the desperate-and-dateless who play World of Warcraft. Some confirmed WoW-hotties include Cameron Diaz, Mila Kunis, Kate Beckinsale, Jenna Jameson and Playboy model Adrianne Curry — who reportedly enjoys playing in the buff. (See below.) As WoW blogger ‘Jaimie’ writes: “There are literally millions of people waiting to find a new raiding partner, on their computer screen and in life.”

How to meet a girl gamer

Adrianne Curry is a self-confessed WoW fanatic (please refer to Tip 1)

Unlike most multiplayer games, MMOs are about establishing lasting relationships, as opposed to forming rivalries. For example, on Valentines Day you can surprise your WoW crush with a flower or piece of jewelry in-game. As you can imagine, this tends to go down better than shooting her in the head and tea-bagging her crumpled corpse. [In real-life too — Ed.]

Our advice is to join a guild with a skewered gender-ratio and then latch onto the most affable elf babe in your party. Naturally, voice-chat is a must during MMO courtships — otherwise you might be wooing a 40-year old mechanic called Bruce. If you play your cards right, you’ll soon be chatting on the phone, arranging lunch dates and making beautiful Kaldorei babies together. As an added bonus, you’ll also get to date her in-game avatar — that’s two romantic partners for the price of one! (If she decides to start playing a dude, just go with it. Experimentation is the key to a healthy relationship.)

The only problem is... are MMO-fans really proper gamers? You might as well be dating a girl who only plays The Sims. (Just sayin’.)

Tip 3: Join

How to meet a girl gamer Please insert coin...

GameCrush is a new online 'dating' service that lets you play video games with women in exchange for cold, hard cash. It's basically a virtual brothel that substitutes Halo for sex. No really. For the princely sum of US$41.70 an hour, you get to choose a lady from Gamecrush’s roster of buxom ‘PlayDates’ and proceed to pwn her in the video game of your choice. Or you could let her beat your avatar to a bloody pulp in-game — whatever floats your boat.

The question is, are you desperate enough to try and score with a platonic prostitute who is solely in it for the cash?

"Hell yeah!" would appear to be the most popular response. Within a few hours of its beta launch, the Gamecrush website was swamped by thousands of requests from horny gamers in an orgy of passion-fuelled server annihilation. “The GameCrush Public Beta is temporarily unavailable due to the incredible user response (more than 10,000 inquiries in five minutes),” explained the front page.

Of course, the PlayDates aren't really gamers -- no more than a dominatrix is a bonafide school teacher. But at least they're willing to talk to you... for a price.

Tip 4: Hit a gaming bar

How to meet a girl gamer

Mana Bar

The bar has long been the Mecca of the dating world. Fueled by Dutch courage and with beer-goggles donned, it’s the most likely place to find a romantic partner (or a sweaty night of mutual self-loathing).

If either of those prospects sounds appealing to you, you need to get your butt to a gaming bar. These uniquely-themed watering holes attempt to combine gaming with social drinking — and they’re bringing girl gamers out of the woodworks. We like to imagine that the men who built these bars were galvanized by Field of Dreams-style visions: “If you build it, they will come, etc.”

For Australians, there’s the Mana Bar in Brisbane, a “funky drinking venue” co-owned by the legendary Ben Crowshaw (AKA Yahtzee). The Mana Bar features playable consoles seven days a week, with an emphasis on social gaming. Remember, you’re not here to devastate noobs with blistering kill-streaks. If you want to impress a girl gamer you need to make her laugh — and what could be funnier than warbling unmusically into a SingStar microphone?

How to meet a girl gamer

Meanwhile, Japanese gamers can swing by Roppongi, Tokyo and check out Ludia’s Bar. As its name implies, Ludia’s Bar is inspired by the popular JRPG series Dragon Quest which features an inn with the same name. The bar’s grand opening coincided with the release of Dragon Quest VI on the Nintendo DS (coincidentally, the girl gamer's console of choice). While it doesn't recreate the 'Ye Olde Taveyrn' setting, Ludia's Bar does offer a bunch of themed dishes and cocktails; including a 'Hyad Cool' drink and something called a 'Goddess's Fruit'. Frankly, if a girl rebuffs your attempts to buy her a Hyad Cool drink, she's just not worth it. (Who turns down a free Hyad Cool drink? Seriously?)

Unfortunately, the likelihood of these places being rampant sausage factories is a lot higher than your average bar 'n' bistro. Bummer.

Tip 5: Convert a non-gamer!

To be honest, this is probably the only tip you need. Y'see, love is a hideous and complicated monster beyond any of our understanding. If you narrow the field to just girl gamers, you'll be embarking on an impossible mission — even if you happen to look like Hugh Jackman's hotter, younger brother.

Our advice is to find a girl you like, and who by some cosmic coincidence, happens to like you back. If the relationship works out, she's bound take an interest in your hobbies... including gaming.

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#4 is key

My gentlemen friend is a hardcore gamer and the most experience I had gaming was on my Sega Genesis killing it (seriously) at Sonic. Within a month of hanging out at his apartment on a fairly regular basis, he convinced me to try my thumbs at D&D:Baldur's Gate on his PS2. It was love at first toggle with me playing a dwarf and him a leggy elf (yep, we're that couple).

We now share a love for gaming because he took the time to introduce me to the addiction through a game he knew that I'd like (as a theatre major in college, you have to like some of that middle ages stuff). He eased me in, instead of "hey, let's play 24 hours straight of WoW." That would have been a bit much.

Take it slow. Like anything else, getting someone to love your hobbies as much as you do will take time. If the chick really digs you, she'll want to share in your passion, not just be a bystander.




Social gaming is a definate win. I play DnD every Monday for 5 hours or so with my roommate and a bunch of my friends... (we have a ridiculously large party) and I am a 19 year old girl. Granted the only female in the big party, we do exist. ^^ (Also, my best friend does play WoW she's a girl too.)



Also, we play pen and paper DnD...
It's better that way. ;)




I'm an avid game player, but keep it in the shadows to avoid creeps.

"Girl gamers" of my age (junior in college)broadcast it to lure in males in hopes it will make them more attractive. I've always played games, but never talked about it unless it was around people I WANTED to talk about it with. I never wanted to be approached by that kid that says, "Whoa... you're a girl that plays games?? Do you play Halo/COD/Madden?"

I try to not bring it up unless genres I do play are mentioned. JRPG's, Magic the Gathering, action, or PC games like (Populous, Black and White, Mech Warrior etc.) even anime/ manga. I think most people don't want to be approached by strangers searching to have something in common without knowing the kind of person you are first. When someone approaches me I would like to hear "Hi... Nice to meet you." Not "You're a GIRL gamer????"

I believe the statistic, but I don't believe every female wants to broadcast it. As the future unfolds games are being integrated into our culture more and more. I'm sure one day it will be rare NOT to play games with how the Wii, 360, and PS3 are making it more appealing for all age groups and genders to play. However the controversy of hardcore vs. casual and what "defines" a gamer also plays a role.



More evidence you shouldn't believe bullshit statistics.

Next thing you morons will tell me is there's no girl Linux users.



plenty of girls

I've been a female gamer for the past 20 years. I play online (EQ) and tabletop games. (Not just D&D - you name it, we've played it) Our tabletop game has 3 or 4 women out of 6 or 7 players. Female gamers are usually not obvious because they don't want to be harassed and hit on by someone they don't know (or even a good portion of those they DO know). The article asks "When was the last time you got trash-talked on Modern Warfare 2 by the dulcet tones of a woman?".... Never, because trash talking is something for immature 13 year old boys. We take notice of who does the trash talking, and add them to the ignore list. We want to play the game, we don't want to have to deal with male ego issues. If you have to posture, you are too insecure/immature for me (and alot of other women).



Gaming Girls

Well, I think this is hilarious. I am a female gamer, or used to be. I don't play anymore because I have no one to play with. If, however, my new boyfriend were to play WoW I might get back into it. For me it is the social aspect of being able to see and do things together in a game. I wasted I don't know how much time playing WoW, attempting to play Halo. I played Nintendo all the time with my dad and siblings when I was a kid. Not a hard-core gamer, never have been. Mostly, get to know a girl outside of the game, and bring her in slowly. Cuz if you're only dating cuz she's an awesome healer and you're the tank then eventually it'll fall apart.



Girl gamers, always a catch

There's more girls gamers than ever, but it seems they come with a catch. They seem to be either fat or attention seeking - thanks to how many guys surround them, therefore making them un-loyal which turns them into complete nutters. STAY AWAY - This is the experience I had with all girl gamers I ran into when I used to play MMO's. I was never with one; I just heard alot of stories. But in saying that, alot of stereotypes can be applied to male gamers as well. The best advice here is converting a girlfriend. My girlfriend plays her DS quite abit, so from that I managed to drag her into some more gaming. It's still mainly casual gaming though, but atleast she pretends to be interested when I tell her about a game or I can get her to play something like New Super Mario Bros.

No offense intended here, just simple observations. If I could get more gold just because of my gender, I would too. As sad as it is, it’s the reason why so many guys tend to make female avatars online, oh yeah that’s another catch, they might be guys!

Conclusion: It's hard to trust "girl gamers"

14 yr old teen


well, girl gamers(where im from)are hard to come by, thats what you get for livin in the boonies of michigan>_< but the girls i know have no interest in gaming and think im a total dork(i am, ill admit it) but still, theres a girl i no who was shocked to find out how popular even freakin' pokemon was (w00t,i am the pokemon master!! havent lost a single battle yet!) and she thought that gaming was pretty much dead. what a suprise it was when she had to take a trip to my room is littered with classic and new games, been gaming since i was 4. (ahh, the days of the NES) now im more hardcore, playing halo, metroid FPSs, (and the classic 2d metriod, of course)COD, and TONS of RPGs ( i love final fantasy....Thank You SO MUCH Square Enix, glad the company merged after the SNES...) but my advice:dont start talking the topic of games with a dont know her interests, who she is, her upbringing, or whatever, its failed both epically and miserably for me....but one thing that most girls have in common:the Internet. and if you know your history of games, and shes more intellectual than most guys(i am actually extremely intellactual...strange for a 14 year old, huh?) you might want to start talking technology advancements. like the fact that the very first video game was made to demonstrate the usefullness of neucular power and how safe it can be.(little thing for those that dont know, the first video game was a tennis simulator.....and no it was'nt Pong!) but my experience isnt the best, of course, and i am still young, there will be other oprotunitiys. i would like to get a gamer girl, but it just seems impossible for my area. i close with these words: Final Fantasy Rules the RPGs Forever, The Legend of Zelda is EPIC and lastly, dont stare at a girl cuz she looks like Rukia or Orihemie from dosent help.....Bye!



Unlike most of my fellow gender I am not stupid enough to think that girl gamers are so rare. Girls who love games are everywhere! Most of the male part of the species are just too dumb to see it. Oh well less competition for me.

PS: Yes hot girl gamers if you must think that I'm talking about anyone below my standard. That's right, I was fat as a kid then it turned out I was good looking, imagine the shock on my face when I started getting hit on by valley girls.

PPS: I even dated someone online since I was too afraid to try the real thing and it just sorta happened. Well she was PERFECT in my eyes.

Anyways the point is DON"T BE SO SHOCKED WHEN A GIRL SAYS THEY ARE A GAMER. I show nothing but indifference, it just doesn't matter, it's trivial. It's like which tastes better, Dr. Pepper or Mountain Dew?



One good tip would be to NOT ask for tit pics when you hear a woman on the voice chat in Cod. Watch my six and revive me when I'm taking out a tank in BF3 and I will love you.



I'm a girl gamer and pretty much only 3 of these tips will help a tiny bit LOL FAIL YOU JUST GOT OWNED!:)*jokes
That's my Xbox motto lol,
Anyway I have steam and xbox live too:)
Steam:Zipping-Beef <3 Elise



Hey everyone, I'm a guy gamer and just thought I'd point this out. The problem is that gaming in general, you don't meet up with people face to face nor girls locally in your area. Most gamer girls don't show what gender they are, and when you do find a gamer girl online, most likely she will be on the other side of the country or worse a different country.

Best bet is not to narrow girls down that have the same gaming interests as you do, meet all girls and most likely they have played a game before, and girls aren't going to put off by the fact you play games (They know most guys play games). If you prefer to play games on your own, or make playing with each other a not so fun experience, that is when they get put off by you. Also get out and socialize. That goes for hardcore girl gamers too!

That Guy 21


My word of advice, Join a Larp (Live Acation Role Play) Like Nero, Shards Of Orn are somthing like that. That way you can physicaly meet theme. Don't try the over the internet thing it's a lower chance shoot. But if you wish go ahead. Happy Hunting :)

Wow Gamer.


I'd just like to say, my girlfriend, of 9 months, homecoming queen, cheerleader, and an athlete, is gorgeous. She's stunning. I'm not just bluffing, im saying this to support my point here, I found out about 3 months into our relationship she was a closet gamer.. CoD, WoW, Diablo, I mean she's right up there with us nerdy guys. I couldn't have been more shocked, or happier. There ARE, GORGEOUS, girls that play games, but 9/10 times, they are closet gamers, you may find yourself pleasantly surprised a few months into your relationship. And to all you other nerds out there, gamer girls are awesome. For our 8th months anniversary last month, she came asked if we could play WoW all day instead of going out on a date. I think I might be the luckiest guy in the world..

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